How to Bounce Back after Disappointment at Work
You feel anger, sadness, and regret, and it has something to do with work. You can go to the nearest pub and drown all those emotions. It's a good suggestion, as the days get colder. It might not be wise to invite your workmates, though. (It won't be the right time for bonding.) There are other ways, which should get over it as soon as possible.
If you're a young professional, then you may have high career expectations. It could impress your boss, as well as some of your colleagues, but disappointment comes sooner than you expect. Promotion would be one of those things, and someone leapfrogs you. Performance could be another thing, where bonus didn't meet your estimate. (And you've been planning on something for months.) You didn't expect a feedback, and you've been blindsided by it (after watching too many episodes of "Britain's Got Talent"). The other one would see an older, if not jaded, you. What happened?
Disappointment at work can happen to anyone regardless of age. You can go to East Grinstead and shout out your anger, sadness or regret. It would startle a dog walker, though. The summit of the Dome could be an alternative, but you don't want to give a bad impression to the tourists. (And it may be costly to do such a thing.) It would be best to sleep it off. It must be a long one, as it should give you a clear head the next day. It would help you assess your situation better.
5 Questions to Ask Yourself When You're Disappointed
How do your colleagues see you? If you don't understand the question, then recall the job interviews. You know that recruiters (and employers) have a different perception of you, and it would take nearly an hour before you sense that the job offer is coming afterward. You would speak with clarity and confidence when you point out your traits that should make you valuable in any company. And your smiling face and gesture would show that you can be an asset. It would translate differently long after you're hired for the job. It may be one aspect of your personality, which you must not be alarmed about. It might be your reaction to a particular task, which you would be unfamiliar at first. It won't be too late to amend it.
Do you expect too much? Promotion is your goal after a few years on the same job. It didn't happen, which may (or may not) be your own doing. If it's a company with hundreds of employees, then you must make a great effort to stand out. (You didn't resort to petty politics, which is a good thing.) You would spend long hours on certain days, which might have led to a dip in your performance on those days. Are you becoming too old for the job? Assess the situation, and be honest about it.
Are you mourning lost dream(s)? You might realise that this is not the career path that you want, but it would be too late (and too costly) to make a change. It can be a what-might-have-been moment after watching another football game. (You have the legs, but you don't have the stamina. You didn't embrace the pain and struggles.) The next question could help you on this one.
Have you tried a different approach? The outcome isn't bad at all. There would be a silver lining, which you didn't notice at first. It could be a blessing in disguise. (A grateful heart would go a long way.) You might not be able to arrive at this conclusion in the shortest time, as you try to comprehend the situation. And it does take some time. It's fine, as long your workmates didn't see any changes in you.
Do you want to talk about it? Telling your colleagues about your predicament could spell trouble. If you're earnest about it, then you must rehearse it. (In this regard, someone in your network can help you. It may be a former colleague, if not an old mate from your university days.) You must be careful if you're thinking of your boss. But don't be defensive.
The Last Option
You must let it go if answering the above questions don’t help you at all. It might frustrate you, but it can be something more than you suspect. You may be unaware that you’ve been playing the victim for some time, and your colleagues would have noticed it already. (Some would ignore it, as there are too many things to think of. The others have kept their distance from you, but you’re too absorbed in your own issues to notice it.) If this is really the case, then it should be high time for a well-deserved holiday. The Mediterranean region is a plane away. (And it won’t be a long trip.) A sun-kissed moment could rejuvenate you one more time. If you’re thinking of far and away, then banish such thought. You might be tempted of a one-way ticket, which can lead to regret later. Think about it.